When your child is drinking or using drugs
Whether your child is 15 or 45, finding out they're struggling can be frightening. You're still their parent, and staying connected is one of the most useful things you can do.
Things you might notice
- Sudden changes in friends, sleep or appetite
- Money or belongings going missing
- Falling behind at school, college or work
- Secretiveness, locked doors, new phone habits
- Seeming flat, anxious or unlike themselves
These can have other causes. Noticing them is a reason to talk, not proof of anything.
Starting the conversation
- Stay curious rather than furious. Ask, then listen.
- Keep it short and come back to it. One talk rarely does it.
- Be clear about your limits and what you'll do, then stick to it.
- For under-18s, local young people's drug and alcohol services are free and confidential.
- For adult children, you can offer help but you can't make the decision for them.
Looking after yourself
- Parents often blame themselves. It's rarely that simple.
- Adfam and Al-Anon support parents and families.
- Look after your other children and your relationship too.
- Call
Al-Anon (UK)
Families and friends of drinkers
0800 0086 811
- Call
Nacoa (UK)
Children of alcoholics
0800 358 3456
- Call
Childline (UK)
Children and young people under 19, 24/7
0800 1111
- Call
Families Anonymous (UK)
Families and friends worried about someone's drug use
0207 498 4680
- Call
Addiction Family Support (UK)
Families and friends affected by someone's drug, alcohol or gambling use
0300 888 3853
Adfam lists local support groups for families across the UK at adfam.org.uk.
When they're ready
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