Family & friends
How to talk to someone you're worried about
A conversation doesn't have to solve everything. Listening can be a useful first step.
By The Rehab Index · General information, not medical advice
Choose a calm moment
Try to talk when neither of you is rushed and the person isn't intoxicated. A private, familiar place can help. If you feel unsafe, do not start the conversation alone.
You might say: ‘I've noticed you seem to be having a hard time, and I'm worried about you. Would you like to talk?’ Keep it about what you've noticed, rather than labels or blame.
Listen without trying to win an argument
Give them space to speak. You can acknowledge how they feel without agreeing with every decision. Avoid promises you cannot keep, threats or trying to force an admission.
If the conversation becomes heated, it is OK to pause. One conversation may not change anything immediately. You can leave the door open and offer to look at support together.
Your support matters too
You are not responsible for managing another person's recovery. Think about the boundaries you need around money, behaviour and your own safety.
Family support services, counselling and peer groups can help you work out what you need. You don't have to wait until the other person starts treatment to seek support for yourself.